You must decide!
Why?
You decide everytime you post, you can't avoid it
Choose wisely!
Wise by whose standards?
We'll all see the answer to that one soon enough - when you
decide!
How will you know what is decided?
He may not, nor is it required that he does,
How would such a choice be demonstrated in concrete, practical terms?
Hmmm - you read the two options, right? 
Just can't make yourself spell them out, I see.
He has
What actions do you suggest?
Decide! Only you can make this decision - you're on your own
now.
You have not offered the requested information. Seems to me that
when you speak of "abuse" and "control" and "goading", you're
really talking about yourself, not Len.
He is not required to indeed he lacks the information you require only
you have it within yourself
Or perhaps you and he are one and the same.
Good luck!
Be seeing you.
73 de Jim, N2EY